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There are so many days when I wake up and feel
wonderful. The sky is bright, my
children are laughing, the world is alive and full of promise. Living my yoga is so easy on these days. I walk the walk with steadiness and
ease. My breath is available and my body
is a well-tuned vehicle to support me through my day. It feels as if a world full of unimagined
potential is unfolding right before my eyes, beauty, joy, love, and gratitude
abound.
To abide in this space of joy, you must also dance in the
shadows.
We all know this dance; it
comes to us in many forms, as a myriad of masked partners waiting to whisk us
away from source, away from our light, and into the depths of forgetting.
It is in this forgetfulness, this lack of
remembering that the dance begins.
Negative self-talk, self-defeating behaviors, depression, greed, fear,
and feelings of being incomplete are just a few of the steps as we are waltzed
around the prison of our own mind.
I am well trained in this dance; I know every step, every
dip, and every steady move that takes me further and further into the shadows
and away from source. I have been there,
laying on my mat, trying to just breathe as wave after wave of paralyzing emotion
chokes each inhale and exhale, as if I am drowning on the very breath that I
hope to save me. I have been there,
practicing, but really just going through the motions. For a yogi, what’s worse than losing your
connection to your practice, to source?
Is not practicing more heartbreaking, or getting on the mat and
experiencing disconnect? I have been
there, angry for no reason, and lashing out, hurting the people that I love and
that love me most. I have been there, overtired and feeling unappreciated, as I
try to inspire my children and students. I have been there, full of thoughts, ideas,
and knowledge, wanting to share them with the world, or at least my friends,
but remain silent. I play small, I keep
to myself, I keep the light of creativity bottled up and hidden, because some
days my fear seems larger than life itself.
When my world gets
heavy, I doubt myself, as a mother, a teacher, a friend, and as a positive force
to make a difference in my lifetime. I
feel small, incomplete, and unsure if I am capable of living up to my
potential. Then I think back to my training and the wisdom of Tantra yoga and I am reminded that this is a dance of remembrance.
We
forget for the sheer delight of remembering.
In every breath and movement, every joy and sorrow, every
celebration and devastation, we are invited to remember. We remember that we are not separate from the
light, but shining rays of light embodied.
We forget this, over and over again, for the beautiful, sometimes
heartbreakingly painful experience of remembering. Just as we dance in the shadows, we exalt in
the light. Our continuous dance partner,
our lives, guides us. Life takes us
into the shadows, to grieve, to mourn, to feel detached and then back to the
sweetness, to moments of clarity and of understanding.
We are all struggling with our demons and at times with just
living. These destructive dance partners ache for our attention and at times need to be faced. Remember,
this is a dance; every step that takes us away from our light will
eventually remind us that the light exists. It is because of the forgetting
that we are allowed to rest in the sweet delight of remembering. When we rest in that sweet place, we are
radiant. We are full of a better knowing
of ourselves that might have been hidden, had we not ventured into the
darkness. Our time away from our light,
hiding in the shadows has been fanning the flame of connection all along.